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On Our 9 Years Wedding Anniversary

Thursday, 15th May 2008 By Jane

My goodness has it been nine years already? It seems like it’s been both longer and shorter. In a really good way, though.

So I thought Thursday 13 would be a good place to share 13 reasons I think our relationship has survived for so long.

And will continue to thrive in the future.

1. We are friends.
Best friends, in fact. It was almost nine months before we first kissed. ~We had months to get to know each other without all the chest~beating of dating.

2. We talked about values before we got married.
And we feel the same way about most things. We also lived together for 18mths and had time to discover a lot about each other before we tied the knot.

3. We take the time to listen to each other.
Even when I want to rant and shake him, it’s worth hearing what WonderHubby has to say first. ~And then shake him.

4. We compromise on little things as well as the biggies.
It’s not always one person ‘giving way’.

5. We are moving in the same direction.
And support each other in our goals. Even when we don’t exactly understand why.

6. We can imagine life without the other.
And we don’t like it.

7. We have both put a H.U.G.E. amount of energy into our relationship and each other.
To put it bluntly, why would we possibly want to go and start again with someone else? How likely is it that we would ever meet anyone else who shares even half of our values?

8. We share the work.
Both in our relationship, around the home and parenting.

9. We accept each other’s weaknesses.
WonderHubby can be annoyingly indecisive, and I’m sure I must have some faults… False modesty isn’t one of them though.

10. We are honest with each other, but respectfully.
We share with each other about most things. Storing little annoyances up for later does not work, and choosing the time and place for discussions is vital.

11. We have been through times I thought we would not survive.
Financial troubles, communication issues, family/in~law problems. Having worked through them successfully together, we find that we feel even closer to each other after each challenge.

12. We have two beautiful children.
Regardless of the old saw, “staying together for the children”, it’s true that they are a very strong glue for us.

13. We are still in love.
Because of points 1~ 12.

There have been times when we have not been 100% head~over~heels in love, but our commitment to each other, our children and ourselves has so far been strong enough to see us through everything we’ve faced in eleven years together and nine years of marriage.

Here’s to many more loving years ahead.

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  1. Irishcoda Said,

    What a wonderful tribute to your marriage and friendship! I so totally agree with your points, it’s how my first marriage lasted 15 years (until he died) and how my second marriage has lasted going-on-seven years this June. #1 and #13, most important of all!

    Irishcoda’s last blog post..Thursday Thirteen #20: The Golden Rule in 13 Faiths & Religions

  2. Jane Said,

    Hi Cassie, nice to see you again. ~Well, you know. Hope TB’s legs are okay.

  3. Ivanhoe Said,

    Congratulations! These are definitelly the right reasons. More people should follow them and maybe the divorce rate would not be 60%+. Have a great TT!

  4. OutsideMyBrainAgain Said,

    Congratulations! Thanks for the post - funny, sweet with a good bit of meat.

    OutsideMyBrainAgain’s last blog post..If You Don’t Stand For Something…

  5. Jane Said,

    Thank you *curtseying* :) Have a great T13!

  6. Suresh Said,

    I wish your relationship will last for ever with god grace.

    Suresh’s last blog post..Fedora 9 hits the streets

  7. Trish Said,

    Jane - this is one of best T13 - I have read recently. Congratulations. I agree with nearly all of them

    Trish’s last blog post..Things my Mother taught me

  8. Mocha Mom Said,

    Congrats on the anniversary! I know I celebrated our 15 year anniversary last November, for us, that was huge because we got married at just 18 years of age. You have a great list and a great marriage! Congrats again. I am up too.

    Mocha Mom’s last blog post..TT # 19

  9. Jane Said,

    Thanks, Suresh.

    @Trish ~ what would you add or remove from the list?

    @ Mocha Mom ~ Congrats to you too! Especially since you got married so young.

  10. Reynie Said,

    What a great list. My husband and I are celebrating our FIRST anniversary on the 19th. I hope to have the same wonderful list as you eight years from now. You’ve been blessed! Happy TT!

    Reynie’s last blog post..Thursday Thirteen: Mexico

  11. Sassy Mama Bear Said,

    Outstanding! Happy anniversary!

    Sassy Mama Bear’s last blog post..Thursday Thirteen #32 ~ Housework, Quoth the Mama, Nevermore

  12. Jane Said,

    Hi Reynie, here’s wishing you all the best for your anniversary and the many years to follow. :)
    @Sassy Mama Bear ~ Nice name, by the way ;) & Thanks!

  13. maggies mind Said,

    Beautiful post! I feel the same about me and mine for so many of the same reasons. It’s so refreshing to read posts like this, too, celebrating the one you love. Just awesome. Many congrats on your anniversary and best wishes for 109 more (or something like that). I’m delighted for both of you to have found such love. Very cool.

    maggies mind’s last blog post..Thursday Thirteen 5/15/08 - 17th Edition

  14. Jane Said,

    Maggie, thank you for your kind words :) And 109 years would be nice! ~I like your blog, by the way.

  15. momhuebert Said,

    Great, great list. And here’s to many more years together.

    momhuebert’s last blog post..TT#30: Thirteen H’s

  16. Kelleigh Said,

    This is a beautiful post Jane - thanks for sharing. Congratulations on your anniversary. My husband and I celebrated 9 years last month. Another delightful coincidence!

    ~Kelleigh

    Kelleigh’s last blog post..Interview with Amy Butler

  17. A Juggling Mum Said,

    Happy Anniversary!!! What a lovely post :)
    Rachel xxx
    A Jugglilng Mum

  18. Mycrazylife Said,

    Awh…it’s so nice to see a relationship that has some lasting qualities. Happy anniversary!

    Mycrazylife’s last blog post..The Downhill Awaits My Arrival

  19. Jane Said,

    Thanks, Momhuebert!

    @Kelleigh ~ It’s getting scary. 8) lol…Congrats!

    @Hallie ~ Thanks, we’ve had ups and some *big* downs, but we work at it and that’s what makes it work, isn’t it? :)

  20. PreSchool Mama Said,

    Beautiful list, and I agree with them all. I was a little taken aback at the “We can imagine life without each other” bit, and then i read what was below, and laughed. Makes you feel like you’re one of the luckier ones to have something as beautiful and solid as that, doesn’t it?!

    PreSchool Mama’s last blog post..PreSchool Spring Activity: Make Your Own Sundial

  21. Our Red House Said,

    Happy Anniversary! It sounds like you have a wonderful and lasting relationship.

    Thank you so much for visiting my blog and leaving a comment about the Christmas decorations. I am glad you liked them.

    Kate

    Our Red House’s last blog post..Crabapples

  22. Jane Said,

    @Preschool Mama ~ I wanted to make sure everyone was awake with that one! Gotcha! :D
    @Kate ~ Thank you, and thanks for calling by :)

  23. We are THAT family Said,

    That was beautiful! Happy Anniversary!

    We are THAT family’s last blog post..Just Like Dad

  24. Jane Said,

    Thanks, Kristin :)

  25. Melissa Markham Said,

    We are settled in for our visit to Illinois. And I am catching up on a month’s worth of feeds. I want to wish you a Happy Belated Birthday

  26. Jane Said,

    lol…birthday? well kind of.

    At last, someone who speaks my language ~ DoubleDutch!

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